tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6750188288819360388.post103500080984605409..comments2023-06-29T03:23:41.202-07:00Comments on The Next Chapter: We're Having A BabyLorihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15410002407855752531noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6750188288819360388.post-51066081660978802312007-07-18T18:01:23.549-07:002007-07-18T18:01:23.549-07:00I'm so happy for you! And I'm happy to he...I'm so happy for you! And I'm happy to hear that you'll be sharing the process with all of us on your blog. Since you've been so open on your other blog, I hope you will be on this one too. <br><br>I've had several friends adopt babies. It is really hard to know how to talk to them! Seriously - even though I struggled with infertility for 7 years before my first baby was born - there seems to be this invisible divider between "us" with normal pregancies and "them" who can't (or don't). Does that make sense? Anyway, I'd love it if you'd write about the right and wrong things to say. For example, one friend called the long adoption process "her pregnancy". One day when I asked how her "pregancy" was going (this was before I had kids and in the horrible infertility time) she snarled and me and snipped "how's yours?" totally sarcastically. Took me by surprise. <br><br>You are so talented at writing, I'm sure you could make our etiquette lessons very entertaining...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6750188288819360388.post-42354072656284779192007-07-19T09:28:07.150-07:002007-07-19T09:28:07.150-07:00Great idea, I'll work on it. On a side note, ...Great idea, I'll work on it. On a side note, it sounds like your friend had not fully processed her grief over not being able to conceive. If having biological children is very important to you, you have to allow yourself to mourn that loss. Only then can you open yourself to the joy of this other road to parenthood. Adoption should be a positive process not a last resort to an infertility problem.Lorihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15410002407855752531noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6750188288819360388.post-75811684120651025302007-07-22T17:22:50.865-07:002007-07-22T17:22:50.865-07:00Yeah!!! Congratulations - early I guess! But con...Yeah!!! Congratulations - early I guess! But congrats on beginning the process! I'm really happy for you. Of course there is no way another baby can replace Lillian, but each child is such a blessing in themselves. We have 3 blessings and we could never "replace" any of them! They are each precious.<br><br>I'll be praying that the process goes well and quickly! (Yeah, right, huh?) <br><br>Love,<br><br>LisaLisa Wardnoreply@blogger.com